Paying for your woman’s English lessons

Before paying for your woman’s English lessons:
1. Make sure she really doesn’t speak English at any fluency. Most of the scammers just take your money for classes having a good level of English. Then they surprise you with the level of their “brightness” as they start using their existing knowledge. Bit by bit. And you continue paying for not existing classes.
2. Make sure the price she gives is reasonable. If she asks more than $100 a month for her classes she is a scam. Actually $100 a month is pretty much too. My school in Nikolaev charges about $20 a month for group classes and about $60 per month for private tuition even with American and English teachers. Well, Kiev can be more expensive but not more then $100 a month.
3. It is better to hire independent teachers or schools. Just google the schools in her region and find those with reasonable pricing and good reviews. If the lady suggests a teacher most of the time they just divide the money between them and do nothing.
4. Pay the money to the school not to the girl. If she is angry about it she is not real and just wants your money.
5. Try to study some Russian. Try to be teachers by yourself and teach each other on the Internet. Of course before that you will need to find a grammar book of your own language. Don’t be lazy.

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Welcome to our new website

Hello gents, we are glad to introduce our new website dedicated to foreigners’ support in Ukraine – In2ukraine Here you can find anything you may need in Ukraine and even more.

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2016 Services and Prices

– First consulting – free

– Guide & Interpreter – $15-25 p/h (depends on occasion) ($100 per day)

– Hidden interpreter service 20 p/h

– Written translation – $5-10 per letter (depends on content)

– Translation of letters – $100 per month for 2 persons

– Phone translation – $5 per phone call

– Trip planning – $150

– Legal advice – $50 p/h

– Airport “Borisipol” pick up – $40 (taxi + interpreter)

– Accommodation booking – $40 per booking

– Mobile phone + sim rent – $15 per week

– Flowers & Gifts delivery – $40 for delivery + flowers’ price

– Transportation reservation – $10 for one reservation

– Russian classes – $15 per class

Women check:

  • Flash check and consulting – $50
  • Online information research + conclusion – $100
  • Background check (identity, family, criminal, possessions, residence) – $150
  • Surveillance and fact check (footwork + video and photo surveillance) – from $500

– Woman search (matchmaking):

  • Chance estimation – $50
  • Profiles setting and search preparations – $150
  • Full range search – $300 a month + $1000-2000 finder’s fee after the successful result (depends on the search time and conditions)

 

 

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2015 in review

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The tricks Ukrainian scammers use.

Here is the way it usually happens when a man starts his search of a young and beautiful Ukrainian woman.

First you google for a dating agency site or you find an advertisement or the advertisement finds you. No doubt you will come across the most popular sites which are the biggest scam residence. No matter whether it is free registration or you pay something, anyway you will pay for letters and video chats.

As soon as you are there you will start receiving letters (you will have to pay for them) from fabulous beauties at their 20-s. All of them will be mad about you from the first sight and you will start spending your credits for sending forth and back similar writings about love, feelings and genuine intentions which are worth nothing. If you are smart enough you will leave them if not you will be scammed badly.

OK, let’s imagine that you quit the agency site. When you register on the dating agency site they ask for your email address. Be ready that your address will be given to hundreds of gold diggers after you quit and you will start receiving letters with the text like: “Hi Darling, my name is …. and I found your address on the Internet. I am 20(21,22,23,23,25….) years old. I believe that the age isn’t something that can prevent people from loving each other bla-bla-bla… Let’s learn more about each other, I want to see your photos, here are my photos (a row of pics with a stunning model type beauty), I am looking forward to hearing from you soon.”

Well, why not to trust them? You are only in your 40s, 50s, 60s and she is a gorgeous young model. Of course you have been made for each other. And they are writing in English. You start a close relation in your letters, but suddenly you receive a message, either from her or from an interpreting agency, and you find out that the poor thing doesn’t speak English and all the time she has been using services of a translation agency to communicate with you. And now she has run out of money to pay. Apparently you will offer to pay translation fees.

Now you will get a receipt from a translation agency with some price. It will not be very expensive for you. Well, $100 or $300 or $500 a month. It is not too much to pay for true love, is it?The estimate your income and form the price individually. And no matter that such an agency has never existed and the fees they demand are 10 times higher than at a usual interpreting bureau in any Ukrainian city. We have never in our practice found the agencies mentioned in the issued receipts. However, the new, more and more intimate photos of the girl with standard phrases will make you pay.

Next stage is education. Doesn’t she speak English? This is not a problem. There are dozens of English schools in every city. She will tell you that it is impossible to use interpreters all the time. She knows a very good English school or an English teacher. It won’t cost too much. Of course not, it will cost only 5 times more than good teachers and schools charge. Recently I had a client whose girlfriend asked for €1.000 per month for her Norwegian classes. The man got a receipt from that most expensive school in Ukraine. After the check we found out that there wasn’t neither such school nor such teacher. We found a car repair garage at the address given in the receipt. Moreover, there were no teachers of Norwegian at all in that city.

Money requests. Your girlfriend tells you that the situation is Ukraine is so bad and she is almost starving. She has a sick grandma, father at war, little sisters with no breakfast before school. She hardly earns $50 a month working hard at her job. She can’t afford even a night out in cheap cafe. Poor things. Although the situation in Ukraine is not so easy, most of the girls we checked had latest I-phones, wore designer cloths, visited fancy restaurants. Nobody is starving in Ukraine even in the war zone. But of course you will offer her your help. So this is the way when the woman doesn’t need to ask for money, she just puts you in a situation when you will offer it by yourself.

This trick is for very intelligent women. Those who are not as clever will start asking giving the reasons above and more than that. What surprises me is that the men receiving women’s photos in latest fashion, wealthy looks, expensive furs, from good restaurants, in nice houses, still can’t just turn their logic on. Women of these looks just can’t be starving.

Lies in details. It is not so difficult to see whether the woman lies or not. Everything is in the details. She gives you lots of them. Doesn’t she speak English? Check it! I had a client whose girlfriend told him she didn’t speak English at all. I went on her social profile and saw pictures of her as a teacher in an English class. I showed him the photos. He said he had seen them already!!! She told him she was a teacher of something but not English. But that was a classroom for English language which was obvious. The blackboard was filled with English phrases. The walls were in English posters. How a man could be so naive, not to say stupid? I found her students in her friend’s list and they confirmed she was their English teacher.

So this is what we do first, we check the details. It might be hard for you. But for us in Ukraine everything is obvious. And here comes the last trick. They just deny. A scammer will never accept she is a scammer. Whatever you find out about her. Once we showed a man his girlfriend kissing passionately another man. With lips and tongue. He confronted her. She told him it was her beloved cousin and it is a usual kissing between cousins. And you know what, he believed her. The scammer know one thing – more obvious the lie is, easier they can convince that it is the truth.

Sometimes men just can’t believe that a girl who has written him so many warm words of love can be a fake. They will introduce you to their parents, accept your engagement ring, meet your family, plan future wedding. Who will care about the details after that? Who will see the lies so close and obvious? This is what happened with one  of my client. He ended up scammed and frustrated trying to punish the girl who scammed him, his parents and his belief in women.

By the way, never try to punish a scammer legally. You will spend years of useless efforts. I have never heard of a successful result. Just quit and don’t repeat the same mistakes.

Take care guys, and check the woman before opening your heart and your wallet for her.

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10 Red flags before meeting Ukrainian women

These are some essential things and as for me they are obvious. However, all the time I meet men who don’t see anything wrong in usual scammer technologies and are trapped and scammed.

The things below don’t mean that the woman you are corresponding with is a 100 per cent scammer. They mean that such a woman is definitely worth checking.

  1. You received a letter first from a hot chick where she wants to get to know you better. It happens when you are registered on a dating site and your email can be given to individual girls who will start the hunt. The content of such letters is usually very similar to each other. Our experts most of the times can easily discover scam from the very first letter.
  2. She is young (up to 25), beautiful and intelligent and she claims that all the men in Ukraine are useless freaks and alcoholics. And she can’t find the normal one in Ukraine.
  3. She doesn’t want to share her skype, telephone number or email address (if you are on the agency site).
  4. She says she doesn’t have a proper Internet access (while communicating with you online), she says she can communicate only from the agency, friends’, internet clubs, she doesn’t have a computer and so on.
  5. She says she doesn’t speak English and offers an interpreting agency to translate the letters. Usually the company she offers charges 3-5 times more for translations than for example our bureau can offer. It means she gets the half of the money.
  6. She insists to meet her only with her interpreter. It means she gets her interest from the interpreter.
  7. She wants to study English and says there is a very good teacher. Check the price (we can help you to check). Usually they give you 3-5 times more expensive prices.
  8. They don’t want to meet in the city they are from. It means they don’t want you to know where they actually live.
  9. They don’t give you links to their profiles on social networks or they say they don’t have any.
  10. They say they have fallen in love with you and they want to have sex with you after only a few letters between you.

So guys, as soon as you see any of these flags, just stop, think a bit and order a check. That will really save your time, money and nerves.

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A dating investigation from The Guardian

The men who go to Ukraine looking for a wife then fly home alone and broke

Ukraine’s internet romance industry is booming – despite the unrest. But after chatting online, travelling to Odessa and wooing women on flashy dates, most men fly home alone and far poorer. Are they unlucky in love, or have they been scammed?

These are trying times for Odessa. After the annexation of Crimea, pro-Russian forces are stirring tension in this Black Sea port, and there are weekly standoffs between demonstrators who want to be part of Ukraine and those who want closer ties to Russia. But for all the political and economic chaos that has engulfed Ukraine in the past three months, one industry is still thriving: the internet romance trade.

The economies of several Ukrainian cities are boosted by the surreal and disingenuous online bride business, and Odessa is the biggest hub. It does not take long for a visitor to the city to stumble upon an “international date” – there are legions of western men in town meeting with young women they have met online, usually with the conversation facilitated by a translator. At internet cafes and homes across the city, thousands of women spend hours each day chatting to prospective suitors online.

There is nothing like the prospect of economic hardship to facilitate intercontinental liaisons, and so, far from business drying up in recent months, the romance and “bride” trade is booming. If anything, there are now more western men planning trips to Odessa than there were last year, when I accompanied a “romance tour” to Ukraine for a magazine story. I spent a week in Odessa with 29 men, all of them hoping to find a wife during their trip. They were mainly Americans, but there were also Brits, an Italian and a Saudi on the tour.

I went with a company called Anastasia International, which is no grimy basement operation, but a huge company with a projected revenue last year of $140m (£84m). It has thousands of women in Ukraine and across the world on its books, available for chats and in-person meetings with lonely bachelors across the world looking for a wife.

As internet dating has gone mainstream over the past decade, Anastasia is attempting to rebrand what was once called the “mail-order bride” industry as something modern and progressive. This is no longer the preserve of seedy and exploitative men seeking vulnerable women from impoverished backgrounds to work as a longterm sex slave, the marketing suggests. This is “international dating”, a civilised way to find romance without borders.

Except that the branding is still somewhat disturbing. The men pay for every minute they chat online to a woman, something that it becomes clear is a dangerous part of the business model. The company claims on its website that finding a woman in Ukraine is like “dating a model, but with the values of your grandmother”. The men featured in testimonials are sick of western women, whom they insist have forgotten “family values”.

‘This is game time’
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Armed with this information, I was fully expecting to spend a week being nauseated by odious men preying on vulnerable women, and there were certainly a few on the trip whose misogyny reached prize-winning levels. But the overall story was far more complex.

“This is game time and they’re blowing me off,” Todd told me, mystified, one day over breakfast. It took the 43-year-old bread-delivery man from Delaware several months of working overtime to be able to afford the tour to Ukraine; he often clocked seven night shifts a week in order to save the roughly $5,000 (£3,000) he paid to spend a week in Odessa, and hopefully find a wife.

Todd, who had not succeeded in finding his other half at home, had something of a compulsive side to his personality. He spent months methodically whittling down 1,500 possible brides on Anastasia’s site to two top candidates. He then spent thousands of hours and thousands of dollars chatting with them online. Things were going swimmingly with both women. He assumed that his trip to Odessa would involve picking the one he liked most and taking her back with him. But when he arrived, neither of them answered his calls.

While Todd’s expectations for what a Ukrainian bride might offer were patently unrealistic, it was troubling to watch him venture ever further down the path of disappointment. Many of the men on the tour were less sympathetic characters than Todd, but all of them were lonely. Some of them were disillusioned with dating scenes in the west, where women did not give them a look; others recovering from a divorce or the death of a spouse.

Another man I spent a lot of time with was Stephen, a 62-year-old from Texas, long-divorced, who was on his 11th trip to Ukraine with the desperate hope of finding a wife.

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“I want a companion, because there are things I would like to do back home, but I don’t want to do them alone,” he told me. “I want to see the Grand Canyon, but I don’t want to see it on my own. I’m tired of having nobody to share my life with.”

Stephen ended up meeting a pianist named Elena on the tour. On date two she told him she thought he could be her soulmate. By the end of the week he was sure he had found his future life partner. It was an expensive week, with the dinners, taxis, and payment for a translator all adding up, but Stephen was delighted that he had found love.

But love in Odessa is not all it seems. Perhaps 10 years ago, the scenario had been what I imagined, with men swooping in, and women keen to swap the hard grind of poverty-stricken Ukraine for a new life in the US, even if it was a ramshackle house in a North Dakotan town or a sleepy midwestern farm, rather than a Manhattan penthouse or LA beachfront home.

Now, it seems, things are different. None of the men I became close to on my tour ended up in lasting relationships, and the majority appeared to fall victim to a number of sophisticated scams.

I left Stephen ready to propose, but two months later he told me by email that it had all unravelled. The woman let him know she needed more time before making a commitment, but suggested that he return to Odessa and continue their expensive platonic dates.

Todd did not even get to the date stage; in retrospect, perhaps a lucky escape. The women took their cut of cash for chatting with him, but did not answer his calls when he arrived. He later wrote to me: “It took me about a month to process what happened and get over it. I’ve decided to close that chapter in my life and move on. I am now concentrating on me and my life and to do things that make me a better person. And to pursue the other hopes and dreams that I have. Will I ever find my other half? One can only wonder. At least I can say I tried. If I die a bachelor, so be it.”

‘Emotional prostitution’
I was able to uncover exactly how the scams work due to a chance encounter with Alina, one of the women involved, who felt weighed down by her collusion in what she called “emotional prostitution”. She explained the whole sordid array of techniques, from a light impersonalised online-chatting version to a full-service chauffeur-driven platinum fraud, where men are rinsed of cash for a full week in Odessa, thinking they are cementing a lifelong relationship while actually they are being strung along on platonic dates that end with them dispatched to the airport with heavy hearts and empty wallets. Many of them come with ridiculous expectations, of course, but I am not sure that anyone deserves this treatment.

For the women as well, although hundreds of them make a living from the scams, it is not an easy psychological burden to bear. Alina was evidence of that, and 29-year-old Chris, the tour’s youngest member, found that when he confronted his date with accusations about the nature of the business, she burst into tears and said she felt awful, but needed the money to support her mother after her father had died. Other women were genuinely looking for a young and interesting partner and wanted to leave Ukraine, but spent hours chatting with elderly men in order to make money.

Anastasia International, while not directly colluding in the scams, runs a highly profitable business model that allows them to flourish. While real and lasting liaisons do occasionally form through the site, more often it only serves to increase the concentric circles of mistrust, disappointment and heartbreak for all involved. Anastasia insists that it weeds out scams whenever it finds them, and has banned some women from the site. It also says it will reimburse clients who fall victims to scams, and provides advice on how to avoid them.

Larry Cervantes, the company spokesman, wrote to me after the tour: “It’s true that some of these guys are spending money they don’t have. But guys go broke in the US chasing American women, as do Brits chasing Brits. So what’s the difference? Throughout history men have pursued the unattainable, and throughout history they’ve made fools of themselves. How is this any different?”

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But the difference, of course, is that the company is making a huge profit from the men making fools of themselves, and while many women are making money out of the schemes too, it is not clear that it is beneficial to them in the longer term.

Far from ending the practice, the recent unrest in Ukraine has only enhanced it. Alina told me that her friends working in the business are expecting several American men to arrive in the coming days, while the less discreetly named sugardaddyforme.com says it has seen record numbers of Ukrainian women sign up in recent months. The new Ukrainian government has rather a lot on its plate, but ending the trade in emotional exploitation is something they should tackle sooner rather than later.

Taken from The Guardian

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